Thursday, February 09, 2006

Everyone makes mistakes right?

(Horrible and possibly friendship ending mistakes.)

About a week and a half ago I was a little tipsy in a bar and a pretty drunk girl came up to me and tried to kiss me.

I kissed her back.

The girl, I soon realized was ridiculously drunk so I decided to stop kissing her. The girl, was so drunk in fact that me and another guy in the bar and I had to find a woman to take her into the ladies room and help her pee. The girl decides that she wants to go bar hopping and I suggest that she get in a cab and go home. She responds by passing out.

I offered to pay for the cab if some people who knew her would take her home and they refused. . I left her to get her purse and told someone else to watch over her and I came back to find her falling toward the bar head first. Yes; I caught her. I really did not want to be seen leaving a bar with an incoherent drunk woman that I had kissed (see "The bad side of being a good Samaritan" below) before but I also did not want to ditch an unconscious woman in the west village and hope for the best.

I go to her house with her. I lay her on the bed and call my friend Rick in Minnesota, and we share stories about baby-sitting drunk people. He has a funny one. A little later the girl is making sounds like she is about to throw up and she is laying on her back. I've heard those stories about people drowning in their own vomit. I take the girl, put her in the bathroom and aim her at the toilet. She throws up on her pants.

I take her back to her bed and go to sleep.

We wake up in the morning and she has no idea why I am there. She has no idea that we kissed. I am fully dressed. She is fully dressed and smells like vomit. I tell her what happened. She is surprised and I think that is a good thing. I would hate to think this was an everyday thing for her.

I leave.

Here’s where it gets funky. The girl turns out to be good friends with my ex girlfriend and doesn’t want this whole thing to go any farther.

Tonight the girl tells my ex that she was drunk, I kissed her and that she doesn’t remember what else happened and “Oh by the way, do you think Victor would… you know…”

Luckily my ex knows me a lot better than this girl and tells her that that is not a possibility, but that doesn’t mean my ex isn’t mad as shit for me kissing her friend.

The girl only knew that we kissed because I told her and when we woke up we were both fully clothed, so I don’t know how she got to the point where she would ask if I would… you know…

Here’s my question:

1. Should I have said anything to the girl about the whole incident? I thought telling the truth was the best idea.

2. Should I have told my ex first even though she had asked me not to?

Here are my guesses:

1. Yes. I should have told her. Though I feel threatened by her question, I should understand that women feel threatened all the time and blah blah blah- whatever the whole thing sucks.

2. I don’t know. I though that it was not a damaging thing in the first place, just really stupid. I really don’t know, but I regret not telling my ex at this point.

I do have a plan though. I am thinking about twisting my dick off and feeding it to birds.

Problem solved. No dick, no questions.


  1. Hey Victor, Peter Thiele here. We worked on a KMOJ fundraiser years ago with Jimmy Stroud and Fancy Ray McCloney. You did the right thing. I know you a little bit and know that you are a good guy. It is non of your ex's business. You did right. You got the drunk girl home. That is truly Minnesota Nice. Peace to you.

  2. 1. No, not necessarily. The details of things that happen while drunk do not necessarily mean anything as long as they are inconsequential, and they don't need to be discussed. The meaning behind things do. She was in trouble and you helped her. That is what matters.

    2. Absolutely not. Just try to be a good person. If you fuck up and kiss someone when you're drunk, so be it. What matters is that she didn't choke on her vomit and die, or get raped, or freeze to death in an alley.

    Everything else is a tiny detail, unless things go further in the future, which seems unlikely now.

  3. Victor I'm going to take a wild guess here, you've probably only had one or 2 girlfriends in your life. I understand that as a goodhearted black albino you are you would not have gotten laid that night. OK Maybe I would have done the same thing you did too (depending if I was really horny and desperate).

    But why must you be afraid of your ex at all. Isn't she out of the picture? Or did you recently break up with her?

    Now about twisting your dick off and feeding it to the birds, Why? Only a priest would do that. I'm guessing off the top you haven't had much luck with women.

    -Just out of topic, do you find it easier dating white women or black? I'm just curious Victor.

  4. Zulutomb

    why don't you think I have luck with women... Don't you find me attractive? HA! Get it, you're a woman!

    Also... you sound kind of dangerous.


    Thanks, I think there were other circumstabces that may lead me to believe that I should have told my ex, but who knows for sure. My ex and I are still friends if you want to know why I care about her opinion.

    All you can eat pete:

    Hey Minnesota! What waht!

  5. Vic,
    I can't believe that when you are havin woman troubles, you would call Rick. Don't you have to like women in order to know about them......

    Rick is the shizzzzzle, but he is my B-I-C-H!!!

    Peace, Corey

  6. Ya should have called me, at least I've been with a woman....

    Peace out, Corey